As a mother of two daughters, age 16 and 11, I have found myself having some pretty in depth conversations lately. Out of respect for my girls, I won’t divulge the subject matter. But I will say, I have been challenged as a parent to know how much to share and what words to use. It’s scary sometimes when your child asks you a question and you honestly don’t know what to say, or how to put it in a way that won’t frighten them or scar them for life.
The experts say, only give your child as much information as they require. I agree and disagree with that. I think it really depends on their age. When they are young, you can probably get away with ” because mommy says so that’s why” LOL but with tweens and teens you better have your ducks in a row. They will ask WHY? They will ask HOW? And they will expect you to practice what you preach.
There was a particular conversation that sent me looking for some ” expert advice” and with my computer at my fingertips I went to work searching for kid friendly websites that could answer some of my questions with how to “word” things that would explain without freaking out my child. I found a website www.kidshealth.org and I love it!
There’s a section for parents, for kids and for teens. They cover a wide array of topics like : Feelings, Staying Healthy, How The Body Works, Health Problems of Grownups, Drugs and Alcohol, Tips on Positive Parenting, and a Kids Dictionary of medical words. There’s also fun games and other kid stuff too. It’s a really good website and I think you’ll like it too.
I have had several friends tell me that I should tell everyone about ” THE BOOK”. Well, ” THE BOOK” is a journal that I gave my daughter Kaitlyn when she turned 13. It was a blank journal that she could write down a question about something she was too embarassed to ask me face to face. She would write down her question in the book and put it on my nightstand. I would write down my response and put it back on her bed the next morning. When she was ready to talk about it, we would.
It gave her the opportunity to get the facts without being embarassed. Plus it gave me the opportunity to think about my answer before I just blurted something out. Abbey is already asking about her “BOOK” so it looks like I’ll be journal shopping with her pretty soon.
Being a parent is the hardest job on the planet and I think we need all the support that we can get. So check out the site, get a ” Book” and if you know of any other great sites you can share, let me know by leaving a comment below.